他们有资格当父亲吗？

这个星期刊登了两则令人愤怒的新闻！
两个被孩子称为“父亲”的禽兽，一个把23个月大的女儿虐待致死，一个性侵犯了自己的十四岁的亲生女儿！

23个月大，一个牙牙学语的小宝宝，无法护卫自己的小天使，被虐死的理由竟是扭断了父亲的香烟？一根香烟竟比一个孩子来的重要？验伤结果发现外伤以外，小宝宝的私处和肛门也有伤痕？小宝宝到底是如何被对待，被虐只是当天的事吗？妈妈在哪里？为什么妈妈没有阻止那禽兽恶劣的行为，为何没有保护怀胎十月生下来的小天使？小宝宝到底在他们的眼里是什么？

几岁的男人了？知道什么的可耻的吗？你的亲生女儿啊！你的道德到底去了那里？你的信仰到底让你领悟了什么？可怜女孩儿，这辈子将活在被曾经凌辱的阴影下。。。妈妈，你怎么还可以选择原谅这个禽兽？怎么可以向法官要求宽恕他？。。。

禽兽！你们不值得被原谅，不应该奢望被宽恕！你们因该一辈子活在愧疚里。。。你们还懂得愧疚吗？。。。

人是为了享受人生而生存，还是为了尝尽人间冷暖而苟且。

无常。

平庸。

财富的贱婢。

可怜的孩子，没有背景的选择。

如果上帝，您无法给他保暖的衣服，暖胃的饭，保护他的后盾，请把他带回您的身边吧。。。

花生木瓜煲猪脚汤 Peanut+ Papaya+ Pork Trotter Soup

猪脚 300 克
花生 200 克
木瓜 600 克
姜 100 克

1。 猪脚块， 过沸水
2。 所有材料入锅，加水盖过材料，小火炖2小时，加盐调味

Pork Trotter 300g
Peanuts 200g
Papaya 600g
Ginger 100g

1. Cut trotter, rinse & scald
2. Put all in claypot, add water, cook for 2 hours. Season with salt and serve.

Housewife Thoughts

Stay at home to look after little angel is my BIG WISH.

Housewife, stay away from the work stress, office politics, the critisizism, and etc....it may be a good time to think if to stay at home instead lost my dignity in the work world with war.

When everyone struggle and fight to keep the job, what plan I should have to switch to a successful housewife?

1. I think finacially must be stable. Which meants must have MOUNTAIN of savings in bank. So depends how "stingy" I am.

2. To get the support from family members. So if let say that "suey", then still have back-up member to support.

3. Do not buy any more LV bags, although it make me look "high class" and "got taste". I think the current units in storeroom is enough.

4. Must enjoy to do housework. Although no need to wake up puntually to clock for arrival in office, but also need to have proper time schedule to arrange the daily works.

5. Must continue to have income! Of coz, no more fix monthly income, but there is still a way to earn pocket money. What kind of job can do at home, need to squeeze ur "brain juice" then....

6. To cut down the necessary expenses. I have cut down the personal expenses for myself since I pregnant. My spending focus on household groccery and also baby expenses. This is what a standard auntie will do.

7. Smart shopper! Shop online if must buy a dress for your dinner, work and outing. It help to cut down up to 60% than usual price. Buy grocery in BULK & also when there is offer/promotion. Amazing, I am able to save at least 50 dollars by this way.

Pray to God! As a believer, I know I can solve problems as God will help. Stay happy ever forever.

Sarah Wall Papers

10 Months & 23 days

9 Months old

8.5 Months Old

5 months old

4 months old

0 month old

How to Travel??

As a mummy, I will bring baby along when I have outing. I like to take LRT/MRT to those places can reach by train. It's extremely convenient especially for those who stay in North East Area. It's easy to bring baby with assistant of stroller by UP and DOWN the lift, IN and OUT the train cabin. I LUV IT!

Baby stroller is important for parent especially there is only one parent to travel with BABY. There are milk powder, hot water bottle, cold water bottle, diapers, clothes, towel, tissue and etc need to bring along on every outing. How can a parent bring the baby out without the stroller?

The current public bus service seems like not support to the parent with BABY. I was once need to travel from SengKang to Tampines by bus. The driver stop me from taking the bus, because I have not fold the stroller. Any super parent can handcarry baby, carry the belongings and meantime fold the stroller and bring the stroller UP & DOWN the bus? Octopus or Superparent? I was so helpless! The captain did not offer help somemore.

Must we parent with BABY to take CAB only?

0-1 month old (at SG)
- Mix feeding with bottle milk and breasfeeding
- drink milk every 2-3 hours from 1Oz to 2Oz
- sleep not more than 3 hours
- crying baby like kitten when hungry
- cry like monster when POO....
- showing her leg strength from 2 weeks old with pushing with moving her body to half circle
- stare at mummy
- there was once slept for 9 hours with milk once only, scared the mummy
- POO every after fed, up to 8 times per day
- Used 5 Big Pack of diapers because no experience of saving cost...
- More Satisfied every breastfed than bottle milk

2 - 3 months old (at TJ)
- drink milk 3-4 hours from 2Oz-3Oz
- Smiling face
- sweet dream can last for 4-5 hours after breastfed
- the feeding timing is in control
yOu will not believe it! Her little mouth is not "little"! Her mouth can stretch to put in her Punch!

3-4 months old (at SG)
- Like swinging around with baby carrier
- Sweet smiling face
- Drink every 3 hours for 4Oz
- Kek-Sai Face is so cute when POO...hee....very concentrate to POO wan...no disturbance is allowed
- Night Owl until 2am daily
- Welcome home, Mummy! My sweetie Daily job! Lay on the rocking bed, wait near to the door when mummy knock off
- Sensative Girl.
- Like to stand with mummy support, legs strength improve
- Chili Padi & Crying Babe
- Use her heart to cry when sad..."Pearl Tears" ....

My little girl like the song with "WaWa" words, eg. NiWaWa....she will laugh when hear the song. She also like the ABCDE...song that mummy sing to her everyday. I don't know what I can say to her, so A for Apple, B for Boy, C for Cat, D...since her birth...my routine work to her


I am lucky. My mum is staying with me before I give birth, take care my confinement and even now still stay at my house to look after me & baby.

Sometimes when I think back...If without her, I may not how to survive until today, and the baby may not growth healthy and happily til 4 months like now.

I was physically and emotionally stressed after gave birth. Princess's Pa is outstation. As a man, he will never know how poor is my body after gave birth and how stressful I am to take care baby IF without assistance. I am not sort of person will ask for help. Frankly speaking, i do not know what actually I pursue for my life and future. i will not tell you I am not happy and will not argue even I don't like.

My mum know me. My family know me. I don't need to talk & explain and I don't like to talk and explain also. I feel bad when I throw tantrum to my family, just because i lost control for any reason.

If to choose again, MUMMY, I wish I can be a little one on your arm forever....

Never update the blog for long time. Why? Of course it's busy lah.....This is my favorite pic of my little princess, taken when she was 2.5 months old. Cute de lo.....kee

做月子

1.10.2008

今天终于满月了。

坐月子的感觉？以为会很糟，其实还真不错啦！

在医院生了宝贝后，我和宝贝在医院待了两个晚上以便医生观察。当时我选择了四人一房的配套，不巧有个妈妈产后发烧，室内的温度被调至摄氏26度，好闷热！不好入眠！大白天的时候，我的汗水是滴滴答答个不停，背部基本上是湿的。。。

出院后，回到家的第一件事，洗澡！当然不能洗头发，否则着了“月子”凉是会“头风"的。。。Don't play play....

我的好妈妈，好老公，为了表现对我和宝贝的爱，百分百的禁止我使用风扇、冷气机，当然也不能被屋外的风给吹着。不止如此，还得把自己穿得密密实实。 为了不让我作弊，他们也以身作则，一起闷在屋子里。可是，他们没坐月子，身子哪有我的燥热? 在生产前都不着衣就寝了，更何况生产后？那段日子我几乎疯掉了。什么事都不顺眼，乱发脾气，不想照顾宝贝，甚至要放弃母乳宝贝。当时我的家人以为我得了产后忧郁症。。。好在这样的日子只维持了十天。回诊所时得了医生的意见，我的老公才让我开始享受“有空气”的生活。短裤和小背心代替了密实的穿着。

我从来只知道衣服可以干洗，却不知道头发也能这么做。白色的粉末涂在头上，活生生的白发魔女的造型，能止油却不止痒，我只能忍耐十三天就洗头了。

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月子餐好吃吗？鲍鱼吃多了也会吐吧！主食：老姜、麻油、糯米酒。。。

不能喝白开水，只喝红枣+党参+龙眼干熬的茶。听说这有助于减轻Stretch Mark和怀孕形成的印记。再加上黑豆，可以消水肿。的确，上听雨轩的次数明显的增加了。。。

怀孕时喝的豆粉饮料补给品继续喝。医生产前给的营养补充剂照吃。。。

不能喝我爱的白啤酒，听说要维持至少三个月，就算没喂母乳。。。

不能吃某个国家生产的奶制产品。。。幸好我不爱喝有草莓味的高脂奶。。。

不知道什么原因，不能吃橙，为期三个月。。。

不间断的喝宝贝喝剩的瓶奶。。。

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以前看见姐姐闻外甥的屁屁，觉得很怪。现在闻自己宝贝的屁屁，“闻”怪不怪。。。

从一开始的每喝一次奶，拉一次屎，一日至少八次，到满月时的一日两三次。。。闻屁屁已成了我生活中不能分割的一部分。

工作的时候很需要懂得计算成本。现在，更需要学会比较纸尿片的质地和价钱是否符合自个儿口袋的经济效益。原来中药行也有卖尿片和奶粉，我宝贝喝的那个牌子可省两块钱！。。。那个牌子的味道和母乳一样，很不错哟！

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突然发现，原来还有很多好朋友。谢谢你们不介意在我“油垢满面”的做月期间来探访我和宝贝，不好意思让你们看见我没上妆的素脸。。。

～Thank You～

我们结婚一年了。。。

2008年9月29日

今天收到爱人送的心型的玫瑰花，中间放满了小动物公仔，旁边围满了粉红玫瑰。突然才发现到今天是公证结婚一周年。。。才一周年，我已经被尿片，母乳和奶粉给淹没了。

结婚两个月，我们就决定生宝宝，也顺利的怀孕，根本就是即可怀孕的那一种，让好多喜欢小孩的朋友羡慕！。。。 “喂，拜托别流口水了”。。。

本来只打算公证结婚就算了，因为我和爱人都是“懒惰人”，觉得摆喜酒太麻烦大家也麻烦自己。不过当决定生宝宝时，在我爱人的丈人的“威逼”下，我们还是办了一场传统的婚礼。所有的事情在决定生宝宝的五周内搞定，包括提亲，过大礼，拍结婚照及结婚午宴。大家都好忙，父母亲，兄弟姐妹和爱人都很忙，而我却闲着。。。因为，我怀孕了呀！怀孕大过天嘛！吾爸爸本以为他已很快的安排整个喜宴，万万也没想到我的宝宝更绝！哈哈。。。婚宴那一天，宝宝已经三周大了。。。哈，哈哈，哈哈哈哈。。。。。不过，还是得谢谢大家的帮忙，否则我不会知道原来传统婚礼是这么好玩。 一场难忘的婚礼，这辈子至少不会有遗憾。。。特别是爸爸和妈妈，谢谢您们！我爱您们！

再说这个一周年纪念日吧，由于太专注的照顾宝宝，我真的把这个日子给忘了。“老公，对不起。。。我知道你不会生我的气，所以我也只是说说而已:P。。。难道你还能把我给怎样？你的心肝宝贝在我手里哦！" :P。。。。一个小小的遗憾，就是你不能在我和宝贝的身边做牛做马，我们的生活点滴只能用部落格来分享。我们会等你的，不做家务，不缴水电，我们会在老地方等你回来。。。嘿嘿！

爱人，我送给你一周年的礼物，肯定比你的玫瑰花更有分量。请看下图。货物出门，恕不接受退还。。。


Picture taken on 29.9.08 Anniversary Day

谁还敢说我像小男生？

宝贝四连拍

Picture taken on 28.9.08 拜祖先的日子

Hey! My 9 days old Pictures

Vielen Dank, Sylvia auntie mummy.....someone said this group of picture is UNIQUE!....hee

Sarah FeiFei - 1st Day on 01.09.08

I am shy....but mummy so open minded, no privacy loh.....

Little Princess Sarah, Happy Birthday!!!

31 st August 2008


Blood and contraction on every 30 minutes! The signal of delivery was found on 11:00am after prepared breakfast for my beloved husband!....Called to sister for her adviced and "rush" to hospital with my husband....of course with taken our breakfast and shower (make sure clean and not smelly to the midwife :)....

We reached Mount Avernia by 1:00pm with all necessary items, we expect to have baby on the same day and will stay 3 days 2 nights as schedule mah....

The midwife has confirmed to me said will expect to labour by evening time as the cervic dilated 1cm already and the contraction is coming every 8 minutes as monitored by the machine....

We wait.........

My gynae arrived at 2:30pm........"hello, you may return back to your home, baby head still not in position yet, I may still able to see you at clinic by next week as it's still early to deliver, cannot be done even by induced. You may wait until the contraction happen every 5 minutes then come again"....what's a joke!?? .....we have called to family said they are expecting to welcome princess Sarah this evening .....Ok, go back home then, we may too kan-jiong be daddy and mummy....

We wait...........

After dinner, stronger feeling of the contraction...Would it be another false alarm? I start to record the timing of contraction.....

20 mins once at 10pm.....

15 mins once at 11pm.......

12 mins at 12pm......

10 mins at 1am....

I can't stand with it, must go to rest on bed, too tired to count down......

Pain!.....5 mins at 3pm??.........Sure? Not false alarm? Wait.......don't alarm hubby and mummy 1st, let them have good rest.....

My goodness!.....the pain really cannot tahan! I knee down beside the sofa, controlled myself not to screams!......but, have to be realistic lah, wake up hubby, move to hospital direct, dun care whether it's True or False Alarm.....

5:00am.....check into delivery suite again, same hospital, same floor, but different midwife......

5:30am......contraction every 3 mins, dilation 2.5cm only, I can't help myself to not to screams.....the oxigen can't relief my pain!.....Nurse said need another 6 hours to deliver due to the dilation....I am not heroes, I need inject epidural!!!!

If I know the doctor need to take more than one hour to arrive hospital and ready to inject epidural, I will not signed on the consent form! I have strugle 1 hour just to wait for the injection, and the nurse confirm again the dilation at 7.5cm after the same time. Meanningless for that injection, isn't?

7:30am, my gynae reached the suite...."hi, we meet again" ......checked...."you are ready to deliver"....What's a joke again? I just injected the epidural as i thought i need to pain for 6 hours! I dun have the feeling of the pain, I cannot push the baby out by myself as no feeling although i asked to stop the dripping of epidural on the spot...

I breathed.....long long long breathed....force the baby out from my body....it took 2 hours (10am) ...

Thanks to God, she was crying after vacummed out from my body. She is healthy although had passed motion inside the womb (it's dangerous as the baby may swallow it and cause the infection)....

The labour process killing my life, only mummy went through the natural birth will know ...

It's a Miracle....

A gift from God.....

A gift of Love.....

My dear bao bei....My Little Princess Sarah......HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

1st September 2008 (Chinese 2nd August Rat), 10am...Room 370D, Weight 2.34kgs, Head 31cm, Length: 46cm

Note: Picture taken on baby 1 day and 2 hours old....

35 weeks @ 40" waist

24.8.2008

Our ROM 29.9.2007

3 weeks old - 15mm

9.6.2008

When i was just a little girl

i aksed my mother, what will i be

Will i be pretty, will i be rich

Here's what she said to me

Que Sera, Sera

Whatever will be, will be

The future's not our to see

Que Sera, Sera

What will be, will be......

6.6.2008

Sarah comes from the Hebrew, meaning 'princess' and was the name of Abraham's wife in the Old Testament. Sara is the Greek form found in the New Testament. Sally, Sal and Sadie started as pet forms.

5.6.2008

如果颜色代表心情，忧郁是什么颜色？

如果生活 是 一个人单独地过日子，你会有怎样的心情？

如果日子平淡得像白开水，喝水时会宁愿被呛死吧。。。。。

5.6.2008

妈咪怀孕了，爸吡不在身边。。。

妈咪独自上菜市场， 独自去图书馆，独自去电车站买报纸，独自乘公车去阿嘛家。。。幸好阿姨们爱护妈咪，总是陪妈咪会外婆的Kampung，至少那一刻是不孤单的。。。。

4.6.2008

哎哟！好闷哟！

果子未成熟，就得待在果壳里慢慢的等待时间的降临，我懂！

27 周了，妈咪，您还好吧！果壳外出现的纹纹是否有让您苦恼呢？让宝贝疼疼您。。。